It turns out there was a very good reason for last year's unpleasantness, and the reason also explains what was puzzling about the person's affect as well. I feel a lot safer going, but I went to older gay guy meet up and am now socialed out.

Gay Guy Meet up went well. I was seated with two guys I know, another inoffensive older guy, and a super hot African American gentleman in my age range just moved here from North Carolina, who also fell in love with the Geography here. Conversation was lively and interesting and I had several good looking men to look at in the lulls.

Meet up Addendum: It is nearly impossible to talk about organists in a room full of gay men without it sounding incredibly dirty.